Published in the February 8, 2017 issue of The Bells
Ladies and gentlemen, the pressure is on. Valentine’s day, that “holiday” that simultaneously creates joy and fear, is less than two weeks away.
Don’t forget the flowers, the chocolate, or at least a card. But the gifts are the easy part.
Generally, the hardest part is planning a date.
Everyone’s idea of a good date is different, but here are a few simple ideas to build your own perfect outing.
If you don’t have to, why go anywhere?
The whole purpose of Valentine’s day is to focus on one of the most important people in your life. So, if you’re able, just stay in.
Cook dinner together or sit and watch a movie. Spend time together, and really enjoy it for what it is.
Couples can get distracted at restaurants and movies, but having a nice, quiet dinner in can be a great way to refocus on your relationship.
However, there’s nothing wrong with going out.
Going to the movie theater seems to be most couples’ default setting when they don’t know what else to do, and that’s ridiculous.
When did it start making sense to go sit in a dark room where you’re not allowed to talk?
It can be part of a good date but in and of itself it is just terrible.
Instead, try going to a coffee shop or someplace off the beaten path so you can talk and enjoy each other’s company.
Everyone wants to make their Valentine’s day date in the evening, but going on a lunch date is just as nice.
Be the great significant other and take them to one of their favorite restaurants. Chances are that the lunch crowd won’t be nearly as bad as what’s going to be there that night.
One of the most important things to remember is not to fall into Valentine’s Day stereotypes.
You don’t have to dress up and spend a lot of money to have a good time.
Another option would be to embrace your inner hipster.
Go stroll around in town and see what you find in the way of interesting small businesses.
Wander around in antique shops and find out what kind of cool stuff is there.
Sometimes the smallest hole-in-the-wall places have the most amazing atmospheres, and finding it with your boyfriend or girlfriend is a memory you could have for the rest of your life.
You never know, you could end up coming back to it if you both fall in love with it.
This holiday should be about your relationship.
So, talk about what you’re going to do, and what you want to do.
Maybe you’re part of the kind of couple that doesn’t need to pay extra special attention to this one day, because you appreciate each other all year.
Maybe you’re in need of a good date to remind you of why you’re in the relationship.
Just don’t forget about each other in all the craziness.