How to handle a bad living experience
For most students, college is the time when you move out on your own and share a small amount of space with a complete stranger.
Why is it that some people just can’t seem to get along with the person that they are temporarily living with?
Many students blame the housing process, stating that there just isn’t enough information asked in order to get the perfect match for them.
Freshman nursing major Denise Schneider has been rooming with the same person since the start of the fall semester.
Her roommate experience has been great so far, and she thinks that others might not be truly answering the housing questionnaire to the best of their ability.
“I think it’s very important that when you’re doing your questionnaire to be truthful and honest. That way you can kind of eliminate some things,” she said.
Resident Director Sarah Hammond offers her recommendation when it comes to discussing problems with a house mate.
“My biggest advice would be always communicate as openly and clearly as you can. I know a lot of people keep things to themselves and they don’t want to talk about things. They avoid conflict,” she said.
Hearing about others having a fight or two with their roommate may scare away some people, but not all students who have decided that it was best to switch roommates think that there is no hope for dorm life.
Freshman exercise science pre-physical therapy major Shirley Chan has some advice for first-time college students just now entering the dorms.
“I think that if there’s a possibility for them to get to know each other prior to moving in together. I would highly recommend it. Just so the two of you can get to know each other a little bit better and set some ground rules,” she said.
It’s understood that some cases cannot be fixed with a mere conversation between two people.
However, many students complain about the little things that their roommates do.
Such as snoring or throwing a piece of paper on the floor.
Hammond believes that students shouldn’t be so worried about the small things and start to live life based on what’s really important to them.
“I think we live in a society that is all about me. We want everything for ourselves. We want the best experience for ourselves. We want the best things for ourselves. We think we deserve the best. We just get caught up in complaining, like maybe this isn’t exactly what I wanted …. Well, make the most of it,” she said.
She continued to express her opinion about trying to make the most of a so-called “bad” situation.
“I think if we can step back and be humbled by what God’s given us and just….I mean you’re at the University of Mary Hardin-Baylor, like that’s a blessing,” she said.
Many people can get so focused on the negativity of a problem that they begin to take the living experience for granted.
They often forget that things could be much worse for them.
Others should be grateful that they have a place to stay.
Hammond said, “Sometimes we need to make the most of what we’re doing and what we’re supposed to do and just kind of deal with the things that may be not exactly what we thought we wanted.”