I hate the day of ‘love’

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By Garrett Smith

Valentine’s Day is a meaningless holiday. It alienates people while robbing
others of their bank accounts. It is not a holiday of love at all, but a 24-hour period of wrapping loneliness and sorrow in pretty pink and red.

The holiday came from the Legend of Saint Valentine. As interpreted by
several translations, a blind girl was sent by the emperor to be mauled by a pack of wolves in the Coliseum because of her beliefs. However, Saint Valentine stepped in and took her place in the arena as a gesture of love. To this day, Valentine’s Day has been a day set aside to express love to a special someone.

Graphic by Garrett Pekar

Photo by Garrett Pekar

Today, the legend lives. Good men’s hearts are being ripped out because girls are blind and have an odd set of beliefs. In the end, the man becomes the martyr. It doesn’t matter if you’re the best man for a woman if she’s blind to your love, or some better looking stud that sits next to her in class is blocking her view.

Perhaps women are waiting on a Disney prince or Edward Cullen to arrive
in time for Feb. 14. They’ll never see a prince ride up on a horse, and Edward
Cullen doesn’t exist, nor would he love them if he did. He would bite them and give them a blood disease. They, too, will be disappointed on Valentine’s Day.

UMHB women also have yet to learn that there’s nothing wrong with going
on a date. It’s a free meal, which is not a wise thing to turn down during a
recession. According to junior speech major Emily Williams, you shouldn’t
turn down a guy for a date unless you absolutely despise him.

“Basically, if you reject a guy for a date, it means you’d rather pay for your
food than eat within any vicinity of him.” Williams said.

Last spring, a student decided to ask one of his friends on a date. When he
did, the girl acted surprised, but agreed to go to dinner Feb. 14. The next day the girl contacted this young man and asked to talk at her dorm, where she backed out of the date. She proceeded to tell the young man that she would instead be attending a single women’s Valentine’s Day party.

This is a prime example of how the lack in social maturity by many students
has affected the dating system. College is a place meant to prepare students’ minds for the real world, but most men will enter the business realm upon graduation, frightened of the response they may get from asking out a coworker. Young women will enter the business realm wondering why they have a college degree, but still no boyfriend.

“People at UMHB take dating too seriously,” Williams said. “I went on dates
in high school, and I learned how much I could tolerate from guys.”

Williams, believing that this mentality should not affect people’s minds, has
been dating her boyfriend Caine Taylor for two years.

Taylor, a junior exercise sports science major along with Williams, believes
that Valentine’s Day should not be a celebrated holiday.

“It’s pointless because it all goes away,” he said. “Why should my attitude
change toward my girlfriend just on one day?”

Williams also says that one day on the calendar should not be the cause of a
changed behavioral pattern.

“I would rather Caine do nice things for me every day of the week than to
feel pressure to do something spectacular one day a year.”

Valentine’s Day is illogical. It defeats the purpose of making any gesture
of love, and it should be taken off the calendar completely. Men, take this
Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to have a dudes’ night out with your man
friends. Women, take this Valentine’s Day to realize that in the war between
Team Edward and Team Jacob, both teams lose.

Author: The Bells Staff

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