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It seems that more and more people are getting married at a young age lately. This is a bad idea. People have their whole lives ahead of them, and yet they decide at the tender age of 19 that they have found “the one.” Nonsense.
At this age, most people have so much more growing up to do that there is no way they can handle marriage.
This commitment is the mother of all commitments. It’s not one that should be taken lightly, and young people often don’t realize the seriousness of it.
Almost 50% of all marriages in the country end in divorce, and the younger couples are, the more likely they are to separate.
So what is the rush? Why do young people who “think” they are so madly in love feel the need to tie the knot so early? Infatuation. Everyone has fallen victim to it at some point.
It’s the feeling that comes over people when relationships first begin. Everything is butterflies and hearts, and it seems as if nothing could possibly go wrong.
Both people are bright eyed and bushy tailed over one another and can’t seem to get enough of one another. It’s at this point when couples believe there is no one else for them and they have found that special person. For some reason, people think this is the best time to decide they want to marry, which could not be a more terrible decision.
Infatuation is only temporary. Around six to eight months is when couples start having serious issues: Is he spending too much time with his friends? Are they spending too much time with each other? Arguments will often happen over the silliest of things.
It is about this time when they start to see the real person they have been dating, and the “newness” of the relationship ceases to exist. At this time, they must step back and ask themselves a few questions: Am I willing to work through these issues we are having, and do I really want to continue down this path with this person?
Unfortunately, for some people, it is too late. They’ve already taken the plunge into marriage, and they’re stuck in a downward spiral that ends in divorce. This tragedy can be easily avoided with a simple, yet often overlooked solution.
Wait. Wait until you’re at least 30 years old to marry. By then, the maturity level of both people is much higher. People have hopefully had enough experience in relationships to know exactly what they’re looking for in a spouse, and they are able to make a clear decision on the type of person they want to spend the rest of their lives with.